Illegal aliens…to prove or not to prove

25 Jun

There is so much controversy surrounding the Arizona Immigration Law….many for it and many against it.  On the surface, I am for it. But there are definitely things that should be considered because it does appear to be racist.

I for one, am an American born American citizen. The USA has always been home. My parents and grandparents were all born in Mexico. I was reared knowing my Mexican heritage, culture and family…BUT I was also reared to know that I am an American female that would grow up to be an American woman with different choices and opportunities.  To note: My parents became naturalized American citizens. They were here legally.  I have however had family, that while are now legal, were not always when they entered this country. 

So knowing all that about me…..which way should I go with this law.  Looking at my pictures, one can easily tell that I do look Mexican. The part of the law that was upheld was the part that continues to allow law enforcement officers to stop and question the status of people. How do I feel about that?  Well, NOT in AZ, but in Texas, and crossing the Mexican border back into the US, I have had my status–quite rudely–questioned.  I’ve even been questioned as to being th emother of my two youngest children because they are very light skin colored (took afte their Dad).  Yes, I was upset by that, tremendously because I didn’t have any proof and they wanted to take my kids away. On another occasion, whle in Texas, I presented an active duty military ID card and the jerk wouldn’t believe me, so he made me exit my vehicle.  I offered him my commanding officers name and number. STILL he didn’t believe me. So then I told him to take me in and he could explain himself to my commander as to why I would not be in formation the next morning….it was only then that I was released. 

So again, which side of the line do I fall upon with this issue??? 

Surprisingly, I agree with the law!! I am an American! I have proudly served my country in the military. I love this country and although I do not agree with everything that our lawmakers put out, I maintain my patriotism. 

There are so many hispanics upset over getting their status questioned. But I say, it’s there for our own protection! Prove your legality and move on!! To me this is no different than being requested to show our military ID every single time we enter any military base…it is there for our protection!!  And of course, so many of middle eastern terrorist also resemble hispanics and just maybe through any of these random checks, American law enforcement may thwart an attempt on our country!

Additionally, I disagree with the part of the law that says it is NOT a criminal offense to work in this country if you are caught doing so being illegally in the USA.  On the other hand, if an employer is caught, they face bigger consequences than the illegal person. While I do agree with punishing the employer, how is it that the actual illegal alien is punished less. Have they learned their lesson? NO, they will simply move on to another job.  Is anyone else having a problem with this??

Well I do…They should both be fined and the illegal held until payment is made than transported back to his/her own country. Yes, I am aware that they will probably just return but at least 1–we are fining them too and 2–making it difficult because with repeat offenders, the fines would be larger.  I know, I know…the longer we hold them, it could get expensive to feed them, house them, etc.  I say…in Arizona (or anywhere else for that matter), put them in tent city!!!

I know my ideas aren’t perfect but then again, the fact that congress decided NOT to punish illegals working in this country is definitely not close enough to being perfect, right or anything in its vicinity. Our military, who put their lives on the line to defend this country live in worse conditions than do our prisoners and illegals in this country. I do have a major problem with that!!

The one clear flaw here is that in Arizona, being a border state with Mexico, it is hispanics that are being targeted.  However, all over the country, there are illegals from Europe who will never get their status questioned because at first sight, they have fair skin, light hair, etc.  That is not right at all either. 

An illegal in this country is an illegal, regardless of where they are from!!!! And while my kiddos were out looking for jobs in this recession, illegals continue to cross our borders every day and obtain jobs without ever paying income taxes. 

So, I think my rant is over…..ILLEGAL aliens are, well….just that–ILLEGAL!!! Why is that concept so difficult for congress to understand? Whether they are brown or white, condoning illegals to remain in this country and obtain work and other benefits is taking away from those that have worked hard or just naturally been born in this country….

non-human family

21 Jun


Meet the new addition to the crazy family AND their pets! Her adorable self is a pitbull and a lovable one!!

Our family LOVES our pets and treats them as a part of our family.  They are given so much love and attention, even in this crazy busy household.  They aren’t walked every day 😦 but that is because we are so busy…..BUT they are given lots of love, lots of mental and physical stimulation and plenty of exercise.

I suffer from allergies — really bad so prolonged exposure to the dogs is really bad for my own health, but the love the dogs give me is too much to stay away from. My oldest son brought home a chihuahua. A cute and adorable dog! But then he moved away….the son NOT the dog….and we had 2 dogs.  The one dog that I use to call my own got sick and we had to put her down 😥  But before she went down, my hubby brought home another dog just to help.  Here is my dog the morning we put her down:


Then to “replace” her my hubby got a lab/sharpei mix….interesting doggy but nonetheless a part of our family.  And I use the word replace losely because my dog was not replaceable.  But to help with the sadness and the void, we got the next one….

THEN my son’s girlfriend gives him a brand new pitbull puppy February 2011.  So minus MY dog, we now have 3 dogs—1 chihuahua, 1 lab/sharpei mix, and now 1 pitbull puppy.

The chihuahua: ShakiImage

Well, a year and half goes by. We’re in a routine with the dogs. Each one has their very own personality. And boy do they–each one quite spoiled….SEE:



Image Sleeping away in the comfort of their very thick and very plush beds!

And sometimes they even sleep in the comfort of MY bed!


So yeah, we spoil the heck out of our pets. I think we need to find another word besides PET to describe non-human members of our family. We love them, we spoil them so much! I have a folder with tons of pictures on my computer(s) labeled “Pets” because we have that many pictures of them.

Now our household has 4 dogs running around. It’s a busy household with or without the dogs but the dogs keep it interesting. They are adorable!!

End of a chapter

20 Jun

End of a chapter.

End of a chapter

20 Jun

What does one do when they end  a chapter of their life? Or rather… do you know that you are closing a chapter in your life…I mean without moving away, quitting a job, retirement, death, etc. Without one of those major changes, how does one even know that it is the end of that chapter?? AND what do you do when you finish the chapter?? NOW WHAT???

For personal and private reasons, I am stepping down from being a youth minister. Anyone who knows me, knows that I LOVE working with teens.  I call them the “misunderstood breed.”  As a mother of 3 sons with the youngest being 17, I know that ALL TEENS ARE DIFFERENT, regardless of their gender, social status, financial status, religion, or race.  Most people judge them, I look at them as if they are trying to find their pre-adult status.  Well…..the teenager talk is for anothe blog. 

Life comes with so many chapters, some shorter than others, some more intense than others, some more full of drama and some happier.  Right now I haven’t decided how to rate this chapter. I do believe that every chapter in our lives leads to the end. Every chapter somehow directly affects future chapters.  People in our lives come and go but each had a purpose.

So come this Friday, I am closing this chapter in my life.  I began getting involved with the youth group about 4 years ago.  I love interacting with them. Belonging to a military chapel community, I have seen my share of youth come and go. While this is often a sad experience, we are also fortunate enough to meet a greater number of teens.  Assuming that my health was good, my Sundays were busy because that is when we meet. 

Maybe now without all the planning meetings, the looking forward to what needs to be done, looking for and reviewing future lifenights, etc etc etc I will have time to spend with my own family, listen to them, sit with them, who knows — enjoy Sunday dinners together. Now my Sundays will be spent with my own family…..I REALLY REALLY LOOK FORWARD TO THAT!!!!

It’s bittersweet…..leaving something I love but moving forward to something I love even more.  It’s not like I didn’t spend time with my own family before, but now I won’t have to postpone time with them.

Bye-bye LifeTeen….Hello McNeil Family – again!!

Emergency Room systems

28 May

So I’ve been sitting in the ER with my youngest son for about 1 1/2 hrs. And many of you are probably thinking “only 1.5 hrs?”

Weeeelllll….I understand the E.R. is usually the only place to go for medical attention after duty hours, on weekends,  or holidays.  And (don’t quote me here because this is not a scientific statistic) I’m pretty sure that a grand majority of ER patients don’t have a real emergency.  But there seriously must be a better system than ER waiting for hours and hours — SERIOUSLY!?!?!

I have wondered if this is a way to deter non-emergent patients from coming to the ER because charging hundreds of $$$ for walking in the doors surely hasn’t slowed the masses. 

I proper a better way…..and YES I am quite aware of the fact that decades of congressmen, healthcare professionals, and hospital administrators haven’t got it right yet.  Nonetheless see my comparisons below :

Currently – walk in and see a receptionist who takes your name, insurance info. You fit for up to 10 minutes. A nurse calls you for triage. Here’s where they take your temperature,  weight, symptoms and place you in a priority category.  Less than a minute of symptoms questions and you are now locked into a category that could mean the difference of LITERALLY hours!  I mean seriously 1-2 minutes and you’re locked in to a priority??? Whose bright idea was this???   If you are lucky they’ll politely tell you to take a seat and “We’ll be with you in a few minutes.”  And set the timer, ladies and gentlemen because unless you are a young child with a high fever or you have trouble breathing, have arterial bleeding or a heart attack or a stroke….do you get the picture?? A REAL emergency….unless that is your case, then your long wait has just begun.

My proposal is this: All emergency rooms should have a Quick Care Clinic aka Urgent Care Clinic. Secondly instead of being assessed by the same nurse that triaged you, an RNP or Physician Assistant should do a more thorough assessment immediately following vitals check.

This assessment should determine if in fact you belong in the ER. If the answer is YES then congratulations because you’ve made a smart move. However if you don’t have a real emergency and your condition can be “treated and released” but you cannot wait for the next business day fir treatment,  then send you off to the Quick Care/Urgent Care for that. If however,  your condition can wait for the next business day, then an appointment should be made for you in their clinic. 

Now I am no MD but this just makes so much better sense to me. I suspect that the Quick Care/Urgent Care staff would be much larger, and rightfully so…leaving Emergency Rooms for emergencies!

What a concept! 🙂

Good vs Great cereal

20 Apr

Since my surgery, I have been trying to eat healthy for the most part. I have been eating Special K.  I mean, cereal is about as good and light as it gets.

I have opted for a boiled egg or fruit or even oatmeal on occasion but usually it’s just cereal.  A couple days ago I had a burst of energy and even made french toast.

Well I actually made it to grocery store a couple days ago and per my youngest son’s request, I bought peanut butter crunch. Oh my goodness, that cereal is sooo yummy! Everyday I reach for the Special K but somehow I deliciously eat Cap n Crunch peanut butter cereal.  Though not as good for me, I enjoy the heck out if it. Those delicious golden brown pebbles are so good. I recommend them to anyone who has that inner child fir sweet delicious cereal….if you wanna leave the adult stuff behind for a day or two or til the box is empty! Yummy ….gotta go now. I’m gonna go get some cereal.

Bumps in the road called blessings

3 Apr

March 15th changed my life…..

Have you ever had those bumps in the road that just happen?  You have no idea where they came from or more importantly, why???  

For about a week, I had been having back pain. Though not unusual by any means,  it wad really starting to affect my daily living.  I made a Dr appointment for the next day hoping I could get some injection for the pain without any long-term medicine esp the narcotic type. I hate taking those —yeah go ahead and think or say it—but I just don’t like them. So anyway,  I wake up day of appt with this side abdominal pain, quite severe I might add! I worried that the doc wouldn’t pay attention to my back pain because of it. Anyways,  I tell the doc that this right side abdominal pain, though extremely painful,  had been going on for a while.  I must’ve looked pretty bad because the doc even asked me if I am usually this stoic??  Hahaha if you know me, you know I am the outgoing fun type of person.  I told him that but I don’t think he believed me. Anyways this awesome doc decided he would take care of both my issues…he took care if my back pain….I love you for it Dr. L. 

He orders a CT scan, which comes up abnormal.  The next morning as I am waking up getting ready for my shower, I get the news that I’m being admitted for further testing.  What exactly does that mean???   So in I go…..

Next day after that I undergo major unexpected surgery of my digestive system.  Now, I apologize for the long detailed intro…..but here goes my bumps in the road….

Bare with me and keep reading please.

One of my sons had left for USAF BMT late Jan. This kid wad made for the military.  He had his mind made up and was certain of his decision.  Halfway through they tell him that there were things going on medically that disqualified him from continuing with military service.  He was devastated to say the least. I sent him prayers and Christian song lyrics fir encouragement.  We prayed and I told him to trust in the Lord for HIS plan was greater than ours and sometimes beyond our understanding.  I reminded him to look into his heart and find faith. Two weeks later, the AF sends him home.  He came ready to move forward.

Less than one week upon arrival home, I get admitted to the hospital for major unexpected surgery. (Are you getting caught up with the timeline yet?)

This unexpected surgery will require weeks of recovery for which I will need assistance.  Enter….you guessed it my recently returned son to handle that.

Had he remained in the military I would NOT have been able to attend his graduation,  he would not have been home for my surgery (which was life-threatening) and now wouldn’t be home to take care of his mama.

When I sent him prayers while still in service I sent a letter that said “Trust in the Lord, always because He knows why He does what He does even when we don’t”  How soon Jesus would show Himself to us by all that has happened. 

My surgery went well and I now depend on my family for a positive recovery.  I have prayed so much more than usual this Lenten season. I know in my heart that God was listening but it is clear through everything just how much!

Furthermore,  my friends’ and family’s blessings have been pouring through phone calls, texts, cards, flowers, balloons, but most importantly through prayer!!!

Today I received a beautiful afghan from my church’s MCCW (ladies group) which was hand made and blessed.  As my son delivered it, tears filled my eyes. Right afterwards my youngest son was gonna help me up and I covered up accordingly to which he says “don’t worry mom about being embarrassed,  I will be the one to take care of you later on anyway”  I began crying,  to which he responded with a hug and a kiss. If course,  that made me cry even more. Every chance he gets, he is trying to make sure I am comfy.

My oldest son has also spent many hours with me during my hospital stay, skipping the gym as well as normal sleep time all while continuing  to go to work at his job. Once at home, he has made me several delicious and mostly healthy meals too. 

I am truly blessed and those blessing have been shown to me time and time again over these life trials. God has a way of showing us the light through the darkness and I believe it is up to us to trust in HIM and SEE the light not the darkness…

I have always felt blessed but never have I seen with my own eyes all the blessings our good Lord is putting in my life as u have the last couple weeks!! I have literally witnessed the goodness of my God!

OK, if you actually finished the read all the way through, thank you!

Friends With Benefits

28 Feb

I have friends with benefits annd I’d like to think that I’m also a friend with benefits to others….and I don’t mean free sex with no attachments…I mean real benefits.

I have all kinds of friends, with their own uniqueness and I love that. They are like all the options in Willy Wonka candy store. We help each other when necessary and sometimes just because….no necessary needed.

So anyway, I have been under some stress lately. After a migraine trip to the hospital on Saturday, I decided I need to find a way to handle my stress. So on Sunday evening, I decided to start a project that I could finish AND wouldn’t take a super long time…just long enough to keep my mind and hands occupied.

My friend has an 11 month old son whose 1st bday party is soon approaching. I already know the theme will be The Gladiator. I decided to make this almost 1 year old a Maximus costume.  My mind went to work first, then I began cutting and sewing. By the end of Monday I was/am 90% finished. I just need to add elastic to the “boots” so they will stay on his little legs.

So then his 3, almost 4 year old older sister gets a little jealous and sad because she wants her very own costume made for her. Sooo I decided to go ahead and make her a little princess dress of her own–in her 2 favorite colors: hot pink and bubble gum pink. Oh yes, I actually said that…just like she does! Of course it sounds really cute I her little 3 year old voice, well at least the first 10 times…..

So I made these 2 very cute costumes. I WILL post pictures as soon as they are both completely finished.

So where does the “Friends With Benefits” come from?? The thing is that my friend had no idea that the main reason I took these 2 projects head on was my way of dealing with/handling my stress level. She just thinks I am this awesome friend (and why wouldn’t she?  Just kidding) anyways, lucky for her, she has this awesome friend that made her 2 very cool costumes that will be a hit at the party, therefore I am her friend with benefits.

I too have my fair share of friends with benefits….friends that come thru for me and make things that are just perfect for me too. And that is the best kind of friends to have. Of course, their cheerful smiles, great personality and knowing they’ve got my back is the best of all benefits,,,


My new AB (Airman Basic)

28 Feb

My new AB (Airman Basic)

Yup this is my airman basic…which is the rank given to all new trainees in USAF Basic Training. This was taken immediately after his hair was cut, or rather shaved. Poor guy doesn’t look happy….now to see what the next 8 weeks have in store for him. I miss my son sooo much. Now it’s only 4.5 weeks to go….


My new AB (Airman Basic)

23 Feb

My new AB (Airman Basic)

Yup this is my airman basic…which is the rank given to all new trainees in USAF Basic Training. This was taken immediately after his hair was cut, or rather shaved. Poor guy doesn’t look happy….now to see what the next 8 weeks have in store for him. I miss my son sooo much. Now it’s only 4.5 weeks to go….